I was going to write my first blog of the year about being a Christmas presenter on BBC Radio 1, but I’m currently sitting in a hospital bed with a cannula in my left arm, and a hefty bandage on my foot. So…as much as being a Christmas presenter was an absolute adrenaline rush, and proof that that’s exactly what I want to do for many years to come, let’s talk about why I’m in the hospital gown first.

I put a lot of time, energy and effort every day into not letting my disability stop me from doing whatever I want to do. I monitor my condition the way I’ve been taught how, I’m careful, but mostly, I just don’t focus on it because it’s not the only thing that I am. But an unhelpful consequence of that is that sometimes my ability to get on with it means that people forget I’m disabled at all, or they at least assume that it really can’t be that bad. (I think I even convince myself of both of those things too on occasion…) The reality though, is that the condition of my feet can turn literally overnight – as it did on Saturday.

I’d had a teeny tiny bit of bleeding from my foot on Boxing Day, for absolutely no reason, but I was due to do my first Radio 1 show that morning so I bandaged it and refused to let it ruin my day. Then it didn’t bleed anymore for the next couple of days so I forgot about it. I was exhausted from working all the time, and the excitement of my radio shows, so I got the flu on Wednesday. I went to work Saturday night, had already checked my foot before my shift – it was fine – but then throughout the shift I started to feel really sick. Like, I fully thought I was going to pass out on multiple occasions. In the back of my head, I knew that the way I was feeling was how I’d felt when I’d had quite serious infections in my foot which had spread all the way up to the top of my leg, but that didn’t make any sense because I’d checked my foot three hours ago and it hadn’t even been a little bit red. (Mostly, I was willing what I knew to be true to not be.) So, I do the 8-hour shift, feel progressively worse, get home, boom: swollen and infected foot, cry myself to sleep, A&E the next morning, get told I need an operation to remove the infection, here we are day three in the hospital with antibiotics being pumped into my arm.

I’ve had operations before – six of them to be precise – but the only thing is, I don’t really remember them. The last one I’d had before yesterday morning’s was when I was seven years old, so yes, I’ve done this before, but also not really. What’s more, is yes, I’ve been in hospitals plenty and I’m no stranger to the A&E department or an infected foot, however, that doesn’t mean that I’m not frightened every time it happens. I mean, when I saw the state of my foot after my shift on New Year’s Eve, I literally said the words ‘I’m scared’ to my empty room in between my sobs before I fell asleep.

What’s strange, is that when I was little and I had my operations, I remember nurses and doctors telling me that I was ‘so brave’ even when I had tears streaming down my face. But I can tell you right now, yesterday morning when I felt the nurse wiping my tears as the anasthetic forced me to sleep, I didn’t feel very brave at all. Quite the opposite. And I think that the main problem I have with that word, is that it seems to imply some sort of choice, when the truth is that sometimes my foot just throws me to the bottom of a black pit, then terrifies and tortures me for a while. But the worst part is always that there’s no point in fighting; I have to voluntarily give in to everything that I hate, and I feel weak and small and none of it ever seems fair.

However, this time around I’ve made a point of silencing the voice in my head which tells me that I shouldn’t make a fuss, or complain, and I’ve told people what’s going on so that they can then support me. It’s not easy to do, because I think part of me assumes that sharing this intensely vulnerable part of my life will make people forget everything else they know about me and only see my disability, or they’ll think that I’m just being attention-seeking. Nonetheless, this Spina Bifida sh*t can be truly awful sometimes, and if I have to do it on my own I’ll crumble, so it might sound obvious, but it’s been a huge relief to see that if I actually tell people what’s going on, then I’ll get all the support I need. Plus, as traumatic as it is to be the one to live through it, it’s kind of nice to show people that I’m not exagerrating when I tell them that it can get bad – first-hand experience always comes in handy when you then ask friends about walking distances on a night out, for example.

So yes, hospital has not been fun lol. But I’ve done the operation, deep breaths have been taken, Disney films have been watched and plenty of love has been felt. Now let’s just round up the whole shebang by getting the bloody cannula out and my foot all healed so I can have some fun in 2023, shall we?